Overthinking


Overthinking is a term we hear all the time, and it is a phenomenon almost every one of us has experienced at one time or another.

It is human nature to think things through before making a decision, but have you ever wondered how much time you spend thinking?

Is it to the point that you feel completely stuck, unable to make any forward progress, and constantly running in circles with contradicting thoughts?

How often do you show following signs:

  • Asking yourself 'what if' questions all the time.
  • Constantly reviewing the conversations that you have with other people to see whether you said something good or bad.
  • Keep replaying embarrassing moments in your mind.
  • Trouble remaining in the present due to your fear of the future or reminiscence of the past.

If your answer is most of the time, then these signs indicate that you are an overthinker. You may not think it's so bad initially, but as time goes on and you continue to overthink, you will find it hard to control your thoughts. You won't be able to relax because your thoughts will be all over the place. Later on, this may lead to a variety of mental health problems, ranging from anxiety to depression.

Fortunately, overthinking is not something you have to live with throughout your life. There are a few ways to manage your overthinking. These techniques will not work immediately, but with proper implementation and a desire to get better, these will help reduce the habit of overthinking slowly but surely.

How to deal with overthinking:

  • Stay in the present: Whenever you find yourself unable to stay in the present because you are stuck in the past or worried about the future, immediately find a distraction. You can do this by holding an ice cube in your hand and trying to feel the cool sensation of the ice, reminding yourself that the moment you are experiencing this cool sensation is present and whatever else you are thinking of does not matter at that moment.

  • Writing Journals: Establish the habit of writing a journal. Initially, maintaining this habit will be difficult, but it will eventually help you to control your thoughts and clear your mind.

  • Face your fears: Instead of constantly worrying about the future and dreading the unknown, make peace with the reality that no matter what we think, some things will always remain out of our control. Rather than trying to control what you cannot, put your energy into what you can.

  • Meditation: When your thoughts are suffocating you, take a deep breath and focus on your surroundings, and meditate. Meditation helps you sort out your thoughts and calm your mind.

  • Do not be afraid to ask for help: If you feel that you can't break the shackles of overthinking by yourself, then reach out for assistance. Outside help, whether it's from family, friends, or a qualified counselor, can be highly beneficial.